This month I found myself reluctant to explore the archetype of The RegularGirl. After some time I was finally able to talk myself around to why this seemed like an uncomfortable idea–nobody wants to be “average” or “normal!”
Initially perplexed by the idea of relating to “normal” I wrestled with the desire of wanting to understand myself and connect to other people. Do other people identify as normal? I never had. I’ve been told my whole life that I am anything but and additionally, I don’t feel normal. As I searched for the answer to my conundrum I was reminded again of the brilliant Albert Einstein.
The same way I get to choose daily whether to view life as ordinary or extraordinary, I get to choose how I view myself and others. Perspective is a funny thing, to some people a song is just something in the backdrop, to others it’s notes and half steps and timing and sweat and tears and beauty. To some people we are just lumps of skin waiting to die, but I prefer this perspective.
“Normal” is really quite extraordinary. The way we have the ability to love and connect with each other and the way we interact with the world creates the tenor and flavor of not just our experience, but that of others. Throughout the first few days I’ve spent here in Santa Barbara I’ve felt the gentle cradle of the universe channelled through the individuals all around. From the people who gave me directions when I was wandering, to the associate that gave me a beautiful car for the price of a lemon, I’ve felt so at home in a different corner of the world because it’s all connected and so are we. I am reminded yet again;
I am anything but normal.